How To Balance Your Work Life With Your Relationships

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Have you ever come home after a long stressful day of work and just went through the routines of the day before bed? You are not alone. I used to live at my job and spent little to no time with my significant other or any of my loved ones. Balancing work and relationships can sometimes seem close to impossible when you are putting in 8-12 hours each day at a job. Especially if we are coming home with the stresses of work still smeared all over our clothes.

Don't let your job take over your relations with loved ones. When we start to put finances above loved ones we start missing out on incredible memories that we will later regret. It can even break apart the bond between you and your significant other if you let it. After years of giving my job more priority over my boyfriend, I realized my link with him was falling to pieces. Now I have a career that I love and work to balance my job and relationships so that both get an equal amount of my energy.

Schedule the time no matter what
Careers are going to take up a lot of our time, this is inevitable. I like to think of a day with the three 8's (which you have probably heard of before). You have 8 hours for sleep, 8 hours of work, and 8 of your own time. Obviously, this doesn't work for everyone, but you can change the timing to fit your schedule. As much as we think we don't have time for something the truth is we do.

How much time do you spend scrolling through Facebook or watching TV? You would be surprised how many hours in the day we actually throw away doing mindless things. Instead of spending an hour in front of the television schedule that time to have a date night or see a close friend. Work will always take up your time, but it is your choice to have it take up your life.

Show your appreciation
I talked about different ways we can show appreciation to our loved ones in this article. Some days are going to be filled to the brim with events that we cannot control. I have found that taking 20 minutes out of each day to show a little appreciation can make a huge difference. Balancing doesn't always mean an equal amount for both parties. Sometimes it is the quality of time that matters more than the quantity of time.

You can ordinarily do this by picking a chore before work and accomplishing it. I have started adding dishes or laundry to my morning routine. Realistically it only takes a few minutes out of my normal routine, and it takes a little stress off my boyfriend when he comes home from a long day of work. While I might not have spent actual time with him, the gesture speaks more than words.

We hear it constantly; actions speak louder than words. I love having deep conversations about our day, but sometimes it is impossible. For instance, my boyfriend works around 10-11 hours on Thursday's and then goes to a climbing gym to teach a class. He leaves in the morning before I wake and comes home hours after I have fallen asleep. On these days I try to clean the house, send a sweet little text, and maybe even cook a delicious dinner. Yes, we didn't physically talk, but he still feels appreciated just by my actions.

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Turn your phone off at meals
Have you ever spent dinner looking at your phone every time it goes off? Have you ever scrolled through Facebook? Doing this puts a barrier between you and the person you are with even if you don't see the blockade. I am a firm believer in turning off your phone when I am with a loved one. Everything that is going on in the cyber world will still be there when you pick it up; that moment with a loved one might not.

Recently I wrote an article about the benefits of putting our phones down. In a world where technology is literally at our fingertips, we forget the flesh and blood people that are standing right next to us. We shouldn't be looking at our feeds before bed but talking with our partners about the day we had or thoughts that surface.

This goes hand in hand with scheduling time to hang out. There are several apps out there that can actually show you how much time you spend on your phone. Those few minutes of scrolling can add up to hours that could've been spent having real-life conversations (and I'm not talking about facetime). Balancing work and relationships means being conscious of how you spend your time when that clock strikes 5.

Express your love
Do you use the phrase “I love you” before hanging up the phone? While I don't love everyone I talk to via phone, I do say that every single time I'm talking with a loved one. Same goes for before I leave a house or am about to fall asleep. My mother raised me with care and knowledge that love is a mighty word.

More often than not I hear friends on the phone with parents or significant others and end the conversation with a simple “Bye.” They are not terrible people for this, but it never hurts to express your love. As far as I'm concerned the word is not used enough to show our appreciation. You never know if this might be the last time you speak (bleak, but accurate). Leave every ending on a good note and just say those three simple words. You won't self-combust, I promise.

Balancing work and relationships can be difficult, I completely understand. As long as we are being conscious of our time and truly making a point to spend a few moments a day thinking about our loved ones we can start to level out each day properly. How do you balance your work and relationships? Do you have any tips and tricks you use to make each day count?


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