How To Spend Time With Yourself

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Being alone can scare many people. I know several friends who quickly get into a relationship because they don't ever want to be alone. While I understand the fear, I also know that it isn't healthy to never be by yourself. Without that time, we don't give ourselves the opportunity to know who we are and what we like in life.

Not only does being alone help you learn more about yourself, but it can be beneficial to your mental health. Whether you or introverted or extroverted, we all need some space away from others to recharge and recover from the stresses that life brings. Even if it is just for a few hours, spending quality time with yourself can help reset your mental state and give you a healthy boost.

Whatever your reason, I highly encourage everyone to take some time out of their week and spend some quality time by yourself. Don't know what to do? No worries! I've compiled a few things I love doing during my alone time that might be something you would enjoy as well. You can start with these tips and, eventually, find hobbies and projects that bring you joy.

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Read Anything
While I usually pick up a book during my solo time, this can be anything you enjoy reading. That could be a blog article, magazine, or the back of a shampoo bottle. A great way to relieve stress is to dive into another world. For me, that means losing myself in the pages of one of my favorite fictional stories. However, I also find love for mindlessly reading magazine articles or learning something new online.

If you aren't big on reading, you can always go for a podcast or get a subscription for Audible. This way you can enjoy soaking up knowledge and entertainment without having to read. Right now my current book of choice is My Best Friend's Exorcism. It's a hilariously written story that is set in the 80s and mixes humor with horror. Whatever you choose, make sure it brings you joy. There is no point in doing this if you are only going to add more stress to your life.

Clean The House
Believe it or not, I love cleaning my house. Not necessarily the dishes and laundry, but decluttering and organizing things. For me, a clean house helps clear my mind out. Being alone is a great time to crank some music and start that closet organizing you've been putting off for months on end. It doesn't have to be completed in a day either. Trust me; I understand that these things have to get messy before they can be cleaned.

Even if this isn't something you enjoy, it can be beneficial for your mental health. Sometimes we don't like spending time alone in our home because we don't appreciate where we live. By changing things up and making it a place you would want to hang out in, you create a space that you'll want to spend alone time.

Just Be
What I mean by this is that you should let yourself become bored. It sounds horrible, but it can be incredibly beneficial. I have found my greatest inspiration and thoughts come from boredom. It's even a proven fact that bored people have a broader imagination than others. This doesn't mean you should always be in a state of boredom, but you should allow it to occur every now and again.

With technology at our fingertips, it can be almost impossible to be alone with our thoughts. When you are mindlessly scrolling the internet, you never give yourself a chance to sit and think. Even if you only do this for half an hour, let yourself sit somewhere and be with your thoughts. You would be amazed what pops up in your head during this time.

Pamper Your Body
I love having a spa night by myself. I'll have a bath, put on expensive serums, and moisturize my skin. After that, I'll just lay in bed and indulge in my favorite tv show or listen to serene music. Whatever pampering means to you, being alone is a great time to treat yourself. With the constant grind of everyday work, we don't give ourselves enough time to address our bodies properly. Plus, it feels great to get out of a hot bath and lather on body butter.

Write It Down
Being a writer, it is only natural that this would be an activity that I do when I'm alone. You don't have to have proper grammar or sentence structure to reap the benefits of this either. Just get out a piece of paper (or your computer) and start writing whatever comes to your mind. It could be what you did in the day, a fictional story, or a list of goals you would like to accomplish.

For me, writing down things helps clear my mind. It also is a great way to save specific thoughts and ideas I might forget about later on. You would be amazed how therapeutic this act can be when you practice it regularly.

Pick Up A Hobby
This activity is open to whatever you enjoy doing. Don't know what you like to do? Try out new things! Pick up a camera and start taking photos, try your hand at drawing, or go hiking in the woods. Whatever brings you joy. Alone time doesn't have to be just spent in front of the TV watching lousy reality shows. It can be a time where you learn about things you like to do and maybe even time to figure out who you are as a person. t

I had my alone time show me that I wanted to start a career in writing. When I was alone, I always ended up fantasizing about a profession in writing and publishing a book. From this thought came my blog and everything else that I have started since then. That hobby could turn into your lifelong passion.

What do you do during your alone time? Are you scared to be alone? It is normal to have those fears, but I can assure you it is not as scary as you might imagine. Sometimes we fear that we don't like ourselves when we spend a few moments alone. However, the more time you spend by yourself, the more you start to learn what you love and who you genuinely are as a person.


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